A lot of guys suffer from approach anxiety (AA), which is the stifling feeling of nervousness one feels when they see an attractive woman they would love to get it on with. We’ve all been there.
So answer this question for me. Do you feel worse if you approach her and fail, or if you don’t approach her and feel regret, uttering one of the classic excuses:
-Oh, I’m just out with my friends.
-Oh, she’s just not my type.
We get it. Approach anxiety can be a crushing obstacle to approaching women. Even if you do approach, you feel nervous and will likely strike out.
Here are some ways to get over AA.
-Don’t pressure yourself.
Manage your expectations. Your first goal should not be to get the girl in the sack. it should be to have a fun little conversation with her. Your aim should be for YOU to have fun with it.
If you both can have fun with a conversation, she’ll gladly give you her number and you can take it from there.
-Always approach, no matter what.
It doesn’t matter where either. A pretty girl in a store might not have the same defensive bitch shield up that she might have in a club. The more times you approach, the less nervous you will become. Approaching and talking to girls will become routine and mundane.
-Have something to say in any situation.
Don’t be at a loss for words. Think of things to say in given situations in advance. Sometimes, the opportunity to speak with a woman is very fleeting and if you don’t know what to say, your moment will be lost. Come up with stock material for yourself or use some that’s readily available on the net.
Remember, the goal is to strike up a conversation, not to be a creative genius.
Being able to approach requires preparation and practice. You will not sleep with or date every girl you talk to, so don’t try to do so.
Talk to tons of girls and date the ones that interest YOU. After all, there are billions of fish in the sea.
Till next time, good luck out there, Gentlemen. We’re all counting on you