Howdy, guys and gals. Welcome to Dating Tips starring the one and only Dating Doctor. Today, I feel ultra lazy, so I’ll let you, my wonderful readers, do all my work for me. Today shall be the day I answer your lovely e-mails. Please note most of these are cleaned up for grammar.
-Guys and girls can be friends! I have plenty of guy friends and I’m sure none of them want to sleep with me.
Well, Cleo, you’re likely ugly.
Just kidding. Well, Cleo, if you are cute, and have legitimate single guy friends that would not sleep with you if they were afforded the availability, good on you. There are no absolutes in this world.
Think about this though. If they were really afforded an opportunity to sleep with you… I mean REALLY, as in, they were in a Hotel room with you and you were bearing down on them with your naughty bits out, would they? Food for thought.
You’re just a misogynist. You think treating women like garbage will get them to like you? It’s disgusting PUA crap like that that makes it so hard to date. Guys should just be themselves. If two people click, then it will happen.
Gentlemen, this is exactly the kind of thing we’re up against every day.
Aileen, it is not misogynistic to tell people that women and men think differently. I do not advocate treating anyone like crap. You must respect everyone. However, there are behaviors that are attractive to the opposite sex and behaviors that are not.
Being a wussy is not an attractive behavior. You have to know what to say to women. You have to know how to act with women. And you have to be a confident, interesting man. Some people already have the tools to do that. Some don’t That’s what I’m here to help with.
As for being yourself, I agree with you. Everyone should be themselves. However, they should be their best self. They should not be the self that sits in a basement and plays Worlds of Warcraft. They should be the self that is confident. That is well-dressed. That knows how to speak to women to reach them at an emotional level.
I never advocate changing who you are… Only improving your life.
I have this one girl I kind of like, but I think I’m friend zoned. How do I get out?
Depends how deep in the friend zone you are. I’m not fully aware of your situation, but if you’re not too far down the rabbit hole, the easiest way to go about it is to ask her out. I’d do it in the following manner:
“Hey, let’s go on a date.”
Normally, I’d never advocate saying something like that to a girl. I’d say “let’s go grab a drink”. However, since you’re trying to get out of the friend zone, she needs a bit of a jolt.
Now, you have to say this in a calm, serious tone as if you’re talking about the weather. If she says “no” or something banal like “it would ruin our friendship”, just say “Okay then” and move on.
Then, cut off contact with her for a while. This will kill the friendship and then you can re-approach her later on as just a romantic suitor. If it doesn’t work out… well… never obsess too much over one girl. That is the downfall of every man. Move on to the next one. There are billions out there.
Till next time, good luck out there, Gentlemen. We’re all counting on you.