Dating Tips – Building Attraction Through Body Language Part II

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Here we go with Part Two. Enjoy, everyone!

When a girl is telling you something, looking upwards briefly before looking back into her eyes, indicates that you are thinking about what she said, or thinking about what you want to tell her.  Smile naturally; forced tight lip smiles indicate secrecy and withheld feelings.

Laughter should also be natural. Forced laughter indicates nervousness and that you may or may not be full of it. Also don’t bite your nails; aside from it being gross, it also indicates nervousness and frustration…and did I mention that it’s gross?

Moving down to the arms and hands. Arms are a huge indicator of how open and approachable you are. In fact, think of your arms as a barrier between your body and hers, and any time you put your arms between the two of you (for instance by crossing your arms, or fidgeting with you tie/cuffs, or even holding a drink in front of you), you are communicating to her that you do not want her because she either angers you or makes you too nervous. “I am insecure and/or an angry douche bag” is definitely not the impression you want to give her.

What you should be telling her via your arms is “I am confident and approachable.”  To do so, keep your arms in an open position, which means away from your body. Keep them relaxed comfortably to the side, hands on hips, or hands clasped behind your back. You can animate your arms to match a story you are telling, but again, keep an open stance.  Your hands should also be open, palms exposed and facing upwards, as this indicates you have nothing to hide.  Don’t keep your hands in your pocket as this signifies either nervousness or that you are hiding something.

And finally, the legs and feet.  To convey openness; legs should be uncrossed and in a relaxed stance.  Just don’t open your legs excessively, as it screams “I am an arrogant asshole who just wants to f*ck!” Crossed legs indicate disinterest or caution, and one leg on the knee indicates stubbornness.  To show her that you are interested in her, your feet and your knees should be pointing subtly towards her. Note that if hers are pointing towards you, then you are definitely doing something right…keep it up!

So there you have it. Some tips on how to use body language to show a girl on a very instinctual and primal level how awesome you are. Good luck gentlemen!